If you have been talking to your therapist about the things you remember happened to you , you are already working on the integration process.

Its just a foot long word that is used for -

Sitting in a room with my therapist
Taking about things - for instance a nightmare or something I remember happened
I get the feeling that I am starting to feel far away in my tunnel area.
Instead of my going all the way into my mental safe place la la land I pay attention to what my therapist is saying, the feel of the furnature, a picture on the wall the sound of my therapist voice, basically staying grounded
at the same time I keep answering her questions about what is triggering me and what memory that trigger is making me think of -

SKR - Hi chit chat.
Me - Hi and chit chat, heres my journals and pictures from this week.
SKR - Looking at the drawings and journals and still relaxed chit chat It was nice yesterday did you go biking?
Me -yea I was all over the place I went down this one stretch of trail and saw a kid around (son's name) I thought it was him for a minute but it wasn't. I found some websites this week. Wait til you see them, really cool. I went to so and so house this weekend too.
SKR- hows Rascal (my cat).
Me - Going nuts over my crutches. He attackes them which is so funny
SKR- My son wants another pet. how about your son.
Me- yea he wants a puppy. The complex doesnt allow it luckily so I don't have to tell him no, he knows he cant have a dalmation.
SKR - LOL Dalmation
Me- Yea 101 dalmation
SkR Bet he wakes you up every morning with that movie.
Me- No he jumps on me and says I want french toast.
SKR- DID you ever climb in bed with your parents.
Me - yea I guess.
SKR - moving closer - did you?
Me - look around the room and say yea, all kids do.
SKR- so what happened?
Me- I don't know.
SKR- What did the bedroom door look like?
Me - I don't know. white brown either one of those depending on when. I don't want to talk about this. the staic is getting louder.
SKR - Ok (moving closer) can you see me?
Me -yea blurry
SKR (moves closer) any voices?
Me- Shut up.
SKR - I want you to ingore it and keep answering my questions for as long as you can ok?
Me- yea right.
SKR- was it a big bed?
Me - yea
SKR- whats your favorite color?
Me- Yellow
SKR- which side of the bed did you get in?
Me- Moms side.
SKR- whethe
Me - what
SKR- Can you see me?
Me far away
SKR- Can you move your hands?
Me - (lifted hand)
SKR- (telling a joke)
Me - smiled
SKR- Favorite color?
Me - yellow
SKR- what she there?
Me- mom yea sleeping
SKR-What color is the blanket?
Me- white
SKR- Did your mother wake up?
Me- what
SKR- (moved closer) Do you like my new barret. I got it at so and so.
Me- yea its a brown one.
SKR- did your mother wake up?
Me- no Dad told me to leave her alone and I got in bed next to him.

We went on through the whole situation like this. Her asking me questions and in between making sure that I could hear her, see her, focus on what she was saying and things in the room. From that day on I no longer lost time around anything related to anything in that memory after about a week my emotions over knowing what happened settled down and that situation no longer bothers me with flashbacks nightmares and time loss. now its just a memory like taking a walk this morning, or paying a bill.

That is what integration is- remembering an abuse situation from the past (which is what a memory piece depending on which word you use is) while still remaining aware of the present. once the memory is remembered it is then a part of the conscious memories and no longer needs a trigger to be thought of.