I don't think it is pent up anger, I have had that in the past and this is nothing like that. When I am angry I want to be violent, this is just frustration and irritation.

I have an incredibly full life-working full time, yoga three days a week, hiking the other days, lots of hanging out with friends, in fact I see most of my friends more than the bf. I have bi-polar II and OCD and am treated with meds and therapy but I seem to have problems controlling my issues the week after my period. The majority of the time I am fine in the relationship but my OCD kicks in from the estrogen and I have only been on the meds three months now so my body has not completely adjusted and I am just coming off a lot of stress in my work life.

I was raised in a waspy/puritan midwest home where manners are VERY important and it is considered rude not to respond to a call, email, text, letter, etc in a timely manner. I do not get as irritated when friends do this but it still bothers me and I have close friends who also get irritated by people doing this-I think it just depends on the person.

I do not feel that expecting someone to respond to a text (even with a one word reply) in an hour is "catering to my needs" especially when this person is glued to their iphone and does not work a traditional job(he is a professor and has the summer off of teaching, therefore spends his days in coffee shop socializing and writing articles). For the most part he is a very good boyfriend (considering he is not getting tenure and has a year to find a new job or be deported out the country as he is not American) but the problem is my occasional OCD bouts. I use this as a way of venting my frustration because I KNOW THAT I AM OVERREACTING and I would rather vent to psych central than be a crazy girlfriend. I have discussed this with my therapist and he feels that it is both rude not to respond but also that my getting irritated is part of my bi-polar II and OCD.

My life is so busy that I have to make plans with all friends and boyfriend in advance otherwise I may not have time to see them and after 4 years of not having a lot of friends (was busy with grad school and then finding a job) I finally have a great group of friends who I love to spend time with. So it is not like I am texting him all the time to spend my time with him because I enjoy living alone and have no immediate plans to live with him-I also do not feel the need to see him everyday and he has been very accommodating about spending the right amount of quality time with me.

Once again, I use Psych Central to vent my problems so that I do not take it out on friends/boyfriend/colleagues, for the most part I am a very happy person but I like to take precautions to prevent having an episode to a loved one and that is why I post frequently when I feel the need.