well we kinda do because she went to the point of reporting that he was hurting the kids and all he did was play with them cause they were feeling bummed out that day and he was trying to help. But it pissed her off. we are trying to create boundaries for our family but it is very hard. Any ideas how to do this? The guy she sent to investigate said he had no concerns and didn't see anything wrong but to not play with them or stand them in corners and be very careful from now on. So that there is no problems.
The reason I deal with her more then my husband is cause she was trying to cause trust problems between me and my husband by telling him one thing and saying something else to me and then trying to play us against each other so we both decided its easier that I deal with her.
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Originally Posted by Direction
I guess I'm suggesting that you develop boundaries to insulate you and your family from her...
From your first post I kind of get the impression that she has a tendancy to interject her opinion of various things into your life...if you (and more specifically your husband) are not firm about your family's boundaries and assert them they very well may get trampled on...which sounds like it is happening now...who cares that she finds fault with how your husband plays with them or gives them a time out
Your words quoted are words I would probably use myself..."I think I am very respectful to her and I don't push anything on her". If you don't push (I would insert the word "assert"), then you will end up feeling trampled. You may want to work with your husband regarding assertiveness. In this case, the boundaries for your family would ideally be developed by both of you but be spoken from your husband to kid's mom.
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