I personally found the more I allowed them to talk openly and the more I accepted them and loved them unconditionally.... the more they allowed me to have controlled over my own life. I never refused any one of them the right to be heard or to see what my world was like - most of the time they just wanted to watch and/ or played with the kids.

BTW - they (the alters) will not leave until they feel and know that you are safe with out them, they need to know that you are capable of living & dealing with life with out fear, pain or deep hurt.... they came as a means to protect you.

((((((( HUGS )))))))

LoVe,
Rhapsody -