Open Eyes have you read any of my posts ? Where did you get that I have nothing else in my life but him? I have TONS of friends, a rewarding career, yoga, book club, pot-luck club, hiking, baking my cats, my long distance friends, work friends, alone time, traveling, etc. I DO NOT wait on him hand and foot, seriously where did you get that idea. The only time I have gone out of my way for him was on his birthday and even then I put it very little time or effort. I have never waited on a guy hand and foot and never will, I don't even want to get married til I am 40 and still have no desire to live with anyone (aside from animals). I am very independent-I support myself and have never needed or desired a man to take care of me. Even when I was a stupid teenage I never let a boyfriend be my whole life-I do not think anyone should be your whole life and never felt or feel that a boyfriend will "complete me" boyfriends are like icing on the cake-very nice but not always necessary. I have actually had boyfriends break up with me because they were intimidated by my independence and successful career and education. I actually consider myself selfish because I put my happiness before other-if you are not happy than how can you benefit others. I value my alone time and freedom and have not plans on becoming a parent, partly because this world is overpopulated and so screwed up that why would I possibly want to bring someone into it, but mostly because I like my independence and would rather travel the world than raise a child. I am actually offended by your post and suggest you read ALL of my posts and you will realize that I WILL NEVER let anyone other than myself be the most important thing in my life. Even when I was living with my ex-fiance I made it very clear that my priorities were 1) me, 2) grad school, 3) yoga, healthy living 4) work 5)travel 6) cats 7)him/friends/family. This was with the person I loved more than anyone and was going to spend my life with-I would never make a boyfriend of 4 months the only thing in my life-even if I believed in that crap about someone being "the one"