Hi Joanna,

This sounds like a painful situation for you.

I am a guy, and all I can say is that your boyfriend completely puzzles me.

Either he has a serious problem with commitment or he is hiding something from you. If you can find the strength within yourself I would suggest that you tell him that you cannot continue like this, and ask him to end your suffering by being honest with you. Even better, if you could get him to go to a counsellor with you, which would take some of the strain off your shoulders.

In the end, some sort of resolution will be needed here, as this ongoing suffering will wear you down and you may become ill.

Do you have any mutual friends who could help out, even just with some information about his behaviour and maybe about his past life?

I'm so sorry that you are suffering like this.

Good thoughts,

M