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Originally Posted by turquoisesea
*hugs* It's impossible to tell what he's feeling without asking him. I know this is NOT the answer you were looking for but in my opinion communication is the most important in a relationship, and I think in this case it's lacking in this area. I know it's scary to talk about.
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I now you're right. That is what I need to do. I can never seem to find the right time or get up the courage. I don't even know how to start the conversation. Do I ask him if he still thinks he can't be in a relationship while he's in school?
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Originally Posted by turquoisesea
It sounds like the worst that can happen is he says he doesn't want a relationship. At that point you could probably be friends just like you are now but you can't be idealistic and lie to yourself that it can become something more. The GOOD thing about that, is that you won't get hurt even worse later.
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I guess if he says he doesn't want to be in a relationship I don't understand how I can still be friends with him. If we were friends and all of a sudden a couple months later he met some other girl and started seeing her I feel like I would just die. I don't want to be studying with him, thinking about how much I still like him while he's getting texts from some other girl. That's like tortue, but I don't want to lose his companionship.
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Originally Posted by turquoisesea
For what it's worth I don't think you'll scare him away. And honestly if it does it sounds like it's not the right relationship for you anyways - it sounds like you need some forms of commitment (... like LOADS of people including me  ), and as I said I don't think you'll scare him away as a friend. You might scare YOURSELF away, but probably not him as easily. Could be totally wrong but from what I read that's my guess 
anyways, wishing you luck in getting up the courage if that's what you decide to do. Thanks for sharing the story and take care!!!  |
Funny enough I never cared to be in a relationship before I met this guy. I was happy by myself. But now, I want nothing more than to be in a committed relationship with him. I know if this doesn't work out I'm going to be lonely and miss him a lot and that is something I've never had to deal with before. I just hate this and wish I could talk to him without feeling like I'm going to freak out.
Thank you for your advice, turquosesea, I know I have to talk to him, but when am I finally going to get the courage? In a week he's going away on vacation for a week and I'm going to miss him. But will he miss me?