something I didnt mention in my post is that he is extrememly close to his mom and sister ...she was so upset once that we got back together after a 2 month seperation . his mother asked me why I was back over there to his house? then kicked me out of her house..instead of leaving with me because I was all upset he stayed there supposably to set her straight..I stayed at his house for what seemed forever waiting for him and when he came back he spelled of perfume and was very upset with me..and then one time .he picked me up from work and we pulled over to talk and his mom called his cell phone wondering why he was late at getting home ? he lied to her and told her he seen someone at my work that he hadnt seen in a long time..when I asked him why he just didnt tell her he was spending time with me? he got upset with me ...I came 3000 miles to be with him thats why its so hard for me to give up ...I was going to go back home and he cried and begged me to stay telling me he would build a house and we would send for my kids ..well , he built his house , we sent for my kids , but never have we been with him ..he lives in his house now right behind his moms house...I love him with all my heart but I diserve someone who loves me the same ..Im done trying ..I just hope I can get through the heartache..its my fault for putting up with it for so long but its his too for telling me he will be here for me and giving me false hope ...take care and thank you all for your replies