hmmmmm..... well, would you believe me if i said to you that i'm having a hard time believing you?

anytime a person says, "Why doesn't so and so do this?" or "Why does so and so feel that way?", that should be a clue to that person that they need to ask "why." us average, normal human beings really can't read minds. i've never met anyone who could, so, as human beings we need to ask "why" and, unless we're doing self-inquiry (in which we'd ask ourselves "why"--why do I do the things that I do?), we need to ask others "why," especially if it's something that's bothering us. i believe a lot of the great world discoveries started off by someone wanting to know, "Why?"

since you communicate via the written word, why not copy and paste the words you wrote above and send them to your possible new-found lady friend? if you're considering not trying any more, then, what can it hurt? look at it as practice.

see, this is why i don't believe you (oh me of little faith you say that you don't know how, or are too afraid, to show or even tell anybody your feelings. well, i hate to break it to you, but i think i, and others, have gotten a pretty good idea as to how you feel. you are an extremely articulate person, full of feelings. letting others know how you feel takes practice. practice here and then take it out into the "real world."

when i was growing up (not to change the subject, but just to let you know where i come from), i was never allowed to have feelings. my mom always told me how i felt, or she would say, don't feel that way. i never made my own decisions and to this day, i have difficulty with decision-making.

i, too, hate it when people make promises and break them. my family does that to me all the time. i can't stand it to no end. after awhile, you tend not to expect anything from anybody. i almost expect the opposite, that they can't keep their promise.

you say "words are hollow," but they really aren't. could you imagine what life would be like without words? think about it. no written words, no spoken words. you say you like actions better? could you imagine the whole world playing charades?

just because people quote shakespeare, doesn't mean that they don't mean it. where would the greeting card industry be if people didn't buy cards with words that other people made up?

i agree with you about trust, too. it's hard. like i said, i'm no relationship expert. i'm getting better. up until a few months ago, i was too busy planning death, but now, i'm trying to have my first relationship: with myself. i take myself places, i buy nice things for myself, i try to forgive myself and not be so hard on myself, i try and take care of myself. you know, the better i am to me, the better other people are to me as well. people don't like to be with someone who doesn't like themselves, and without even trying to make friends, i have made friends, just by being a friend to myself.

now, it may sound corny, so be it. but it's true.

believe it or not!

take care, Jigglypuff, and good luck with your coffee date. remember, life is to short not to take chances.

splash

p.s. sometimes i have found that people who say they want to help, but end up not being able to, are people who need help themselves. on the other hand, people can help themselves by helping others.