Hi Joann

Fayerody is right. Your b/f's mother has never untied the apron strings, and he refers to her on all things. In fact, he is a typical mommy's boy. Maybe his mother feels worried that you already have children and doesn't want her boy to take on too much responsibility? If that's the case, he should never have agreed to your moving 3,000 miles and then sending for the kids. He is being very irresponsible, and I am surprised you were taken in by him. Our children should come first - in any scenario - think about it! You'll get over him, but your kids will still be there wanting and needing your love and care. Don't build up mental complexes for them.
There is someone out there for you, so don't waste any more time on this snake in the grass. Perfume! Huh!
Try to imagine what it's like to be happy and not hurting - what a relief it will be - look ahead to the future for your kids' sake - it's a good way of getting over a bad experience. Move on, that's my advice.

FG