Greenfairy, it sounds like I wrote your post. I recently entered therapy and found a wonderful psychologist who is helping me put it all in perspective. I think you'll find you are not alone eventhough it seems like it. Seems like no one could possibly understand what you are feeling - but I do and many others. When my therapist used to say that, I'd roll my eyes because I didn't believe him. But it's true. And you're right, a person can't just "get over it". It takes committment and work with a trained professional. But it can happen. Hang in there and know that we are here for you. Be safe