But I really don't keep up with housework. I'm just not good at making sure everything gets done. He told me before I married him that the house would be my job. It was a huge mistake for me to get married when I did because I didn't know who I was and I've felt so trapped. I never was in love, but I didn't think I could make it by myself and wasn't going to let my parents suck me in again. It's been almost 16 years now and it's not fair for me to change the rules after all this time, but 3 years ago I reached the point where I couldn't survive anymore as a SAHM, and I had to change directions, but if I abandoned my family I would be so irresponsible. There aren't any right answers, and it's all my own fault.