Rapunzel--

What I am trying to say is that it is not OK for him to treat the rest of his family that way for any reason...it is simply not acceptable. Look at it this way...if you had cleaned something at work but missed moving a cart and there was dirt under there, would it be OK for your supervisor to pick up the cart and throw it and then yell at you? Of course not. Likewise, you should be treated with even more respect at home than you would get at work. After all, you promised to take of this person for the rest of his life, and he did the same.

That's one reason I am divorced--we had gotten into a pattern of treating each other in this way. I decided not to play anymore. When she started screaming, I simply said "I can't talk to you when you scream. I'm going.......... When you feel like we can talk, I'll be there." Just say it very matter-of-factly....you don't have to put up with it.

I just HATE to see people treated this way--it's just not right.

DJ