Thank you Doc

I know you did not point fingers. I admit I am a person here that a select few do not like seeing and reading posts from and are upset because I am still here.

I have refused to change my posting stlye and my information because other people have told me that I am doing just fine. My not changing and my posting the information that I do makes those that don't like it upset. I understand that.

In life you cant please everyone.. The basic D*mn*d if you do d*mn*d if you don't situation.

Support groups are not popularity contests in real life and because it is real people not clones that are behind the computers, no one on line can please everyone.

I don't post what I do to upset those few that don't like my posting style and information,

I post it for those that are ready for it and are asking me questions about it. I also post because the things I have done and am doing and this information that I share has helped me to jump years ahead of where I was and up and through to the other side of those problems.

I have learned that dispite the few that don't like my posting style and information, and want me gone, there are many more people happy with my posting style and are looking for this exact information and are at the stage where it can help them too jump years ahead of the problems they are having with DID. (my blog jumps by the hundreds a week just from this site alone, not counting the google searches.)

Like I keep saying to those few, and you have just pointed out - There is a way not to read posts if they are upsetting you. Alot of people are afraid to use this option because they are afraid of what the other person that they don't like will think. When people use tht option no one knows you are using it unless you tell them. And if someone you don't like does find out you are using that option it doesn't matter. Why worry about what someone you don't like is thinking? That's thier problem.

The same goes for private messaging. People pm other people AFTER they have read the boards. If you don't like the posting style and information that a person posts on the boards then you are not going to like the way that person answers the pms that they recieve from you.

I am the same way by pm as I am on the boards. The information you recieve by pm is the same information that you see on the boards and in my blog, maybe with more details but it is the same posting style and type of information.

I have found that certain people knowing they don't like the public posts they read, pm the person thanking them for the public post and asking questions about it, but then when they recieve the same by pm they get upset. Instead of telling the person they are upset they post against that person on the boards and by pm to others. Basically needlessly pulling other people into a problem that wouldnt have existed if they hadn't pm'ed someone they didn't like the post of on the boards.

You can save yourself alot of problems by - if you don't like what you see publically then you are not going to like by pming the person and don't pm that person.

I have also recieved pms asking what a person can do about another person here.. I always tell them Take it up with them not me. This has saved me a few times fron being pulled into a battle. I don't consider those that ask me to fight or get into those type of battles friends. They are being inconsiderate and imature. We are adults and teens dealing with adult issues of abuse. Asking someone what to do about someone else here only leads to causing your friend pain and you end up losing the friend because of that pain.

Not to mention that friend you are asking to help you with someone else here may be a friend of the person you are having a problem with and complaining about.

Forcing someone to choose sides results in both sides losing that friend.

The same option for not reading the public boards is available for pms. Replying to pms that you don't like or are having a problem with only gets you another pm you are not going to like from that person.

If you don't want to work out that problem with the person you are upset with: Don't pull others into the fight -

the solution is simple - don't pm them and don't reply to their pm's.

Use the same option available for not reading the posts you don't like for your pms. This will save you alot of needless pain and save your other friendships here in the process.