I have been in menopause for a few years. It does get easier over time. I have night sweats more than hot flashes but neither are a constant occurance. I sleep with the window open a bit even in the Winter, or you can keep a fan or a/c in your bedroom. I also find that taking a cool shower before bed helps me. As for the hot flashes, I try to dress in layers when possible, step outside for fresh air, and if all else fails, I stick my head in the freezer for a few seconds! lol