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Old Jan 21, 2004, 05:28 PM
Zenobia Zenobia is offline
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There were times when I became oversesitive to the responses of others. The need to be loved made me search every interaction for signs that someone cares. This created major anxiety because there are times when people just need to be involved in themselves so they were not able to give the "signs" that I was looking for. It wasn't that they didn't care about me it was just that they were busy with something else right at the moment. But being the way I was their last interaction with me was their only interaction that I took as proof of their love. That wasn't fair to them because they had to be constantly proving they cared even though they had shown me that they did a million times over. As I gained confidence in my selfworth and began to believe I was loveable and likeable I became a little less upset when days like your yesterday came along. Then the feelings became vague musings, curiosity about why I felt the way I did when I had ample proof that the aloneness was not reality. What I am trying to say is don't base someone's overall response to you on one day's interaction--we all have bad days--and that things do get better in time. Hang in there.
Carrie