Hi to everyone and thank you ahead of time to anyone who may be able to offer some advice for my situation.this is difficult to get organized in my mind, so please bear with me.

My husband and I have been together for 18 years, married for nearly 16 of them. Our relationship is not perfect, but who's is? It has been a real challenge also at times, but for the most part we get along well enough. The main thing that has allowed our relationship to last is how much freedom I give him, and he me.

However lately things have been getting especially hard to deal with. He's been getting into many more legal problems than usual, WAY, WAY more severe problems, and these have in turn been making him feel a lot of pressure and restricted freedom as well as a great deal of aggression. He has started being rough with me and totally disregarding me as a person physically and emotionally. also he's pulled almost completely away and no longer tries anymore to contribute to our relationship as a couple in any way.

Ive tried getting him to start taking therapy of some kind, but he hasn't shown any interest in that.If anything he's shown disdain, as the only experience he's had with a therapist was a bad one. I threatened to go and stay with a friend if he didn't find one and got out of the house for a week. I've tried stopping him and making him talk to me about something, anything, but when I won't move out of his way he literally walks right into me.

Most of the time we get along well and while he can be horrible when it suits him he's never been like this to me, and for so long on top of it! I'm not in need of suggestions to leave him.. Any insights that might be given about what could be going on in his head to be prompting this kind of behavior would be highly appreciated. I want to resolve whatever this is, so please try to keep that in mind. Thanks so much and I love you all