tomi that is a tough question hon...I do understand where you are coming from on this....kind of like a catch 22..make him leave then have no help in your dailey life needs or have him leave knowing you can live in peace. I sometimes have felt that in my life. I don't know about your area but here they have a van you can call at a very small charge to take you to like dr appointments and such as that. or if you have a close friend that would be willing to take you places you need to go....are you completely wheelchair bound?