Sounds like you are still trying to find yourself & it does take trying different things & seeing where you are comfortable & where you aren't.....but you have be know to feel secure with when you don't feel good about a situation. I have learned over the years.....I'm 58 now....but my gut feelings are something I can usually trust in now. I still find myself in some situations that I end up having problems in...but mostly.....I let my gut feelings be my guide.