I work full-time too, actually, and overtime when I can. (I would rather be at work than home most of the time). But I only make less than a quarter of what he does, so it seems like it doesn't really count, and I still ought to be doing all the housework and not farming it out to the kids. There was once a time when he was unemployed and I had the only job, and he still wouldn't do housework or watch the baby. I wouldn't ever yell at him and stuff, but I'm not sure I'm any better with the kids. I try not to get mad at them, but usually that means I can't be trying to work with them or be right there with them when they are supposed to be working. I don't think I would lecture and yell at my husband even if I could (he would just interrupt and give it right back if I tried) but maybe what I do is worse. When he won't stop and I can't take any more, I hurt myself, and then he feels bad, and I feel bad for making him feel bad. That's the only way out sometimes though.