Hi Jenn1fer82,

It is very hard to figure out how to balance the two. I was abused by my brother and verbally by my mother. I came to the point of not having anything to do with my brother, wife and my neice. They hurt me so bad. They usually only seek me when they need something. My brother has also hurt my husband by spreading rumors that he has malested my daughter. Which I know for a fact is not true. My neice has destroyed my daughters self esteem. She now goes to couseling for this and other things.

I can't tell you what to do or how to figure it out. I just decided that the best thing for me was to support and be here for my husband and daughter. They are the ones who matter the most in my life.

Hope you can find a solution to your pain and anger. It is not healthy to carry all that inside. Here for you.