That is a hard situation to be in. When somebody is preaching honesty but you know they are lying the whole time. I assume you are "fishing" to give this person a chance to tell you the truth.

I would agree that coming out and asking would be the best as it seems to be causing so much distress to you.

I also agree it is not your fault that this person is less than honest. We are not at fault for every person's short comings even if we have been taught we are since birth.

Hope you can resolve this and find peace.

((((((((( atg ))))))))