You've gotten some excellent answers so far. I married a widower 13 years ago. His first wife never enjoyed sex. She dressed & undressed in their closet, so he never saw her nude. She was his high school sweetheart, and they didn't have sex until after they were married, although they did a lot of fooling around. He does like a LOT of sex--once or twice a day sometimes! Still, at 74! I can tell you, with me, he is a wonderful lover. He takes a lot of care and patience with me, so that I enjoy the sex as much as he does, or nearly so. And, as he tells it, he does it in part because it excites him so much to have me excited and enjoying it too. So, I'd take things slowly, but open yourself up to the fact that more intimacy between you might be more pleasurable for BOTH of you. You might endear yourself forever to your hubby for working on this. And to yourself. It's a very fulfilling and completing act for an individual or a couple--the two of you together are greater than you both as individuals!