Thank you Pegasus, I am the same way, I don't want to upset anybody. Sometimes I have tried to communicate when I have been hurt and confused by someone and as it turned out it made matters worse (and was devastating to me..... hurt people hurt people, works both ways ) so being avoidant is safer ..... but if I always avoid I would be "stuck" ....

Thanks for your helpful reply!
Bearhugs,
Fuzzy