It's easy to mis read people when things aren't specifically communicated. It's hard to keep some relationships going.....there are some where differences do cause some angry feelings.

I had a friend who I had only met a few years before....who was trying to tell me what she thought was the solution to my problem & then seemed to attack me about other things that weren't even accurate when I said that I couldn't agree with her solution (it was about meds & she had no idea all the bad side effects I had gone through prior to moving to my new home 2100 miles away, where no one even knew me). I couldn't blame her for wanting to find a solution that would help me.....realized she had to have spent much thought time trying to come up with what she thought was the solution. I didn't end up calling her on her suggestion, but the attacks that happened when her suggestion wasn't agreed to. I could have misread her big time....but realized that it's ok if people don't like what I do or how I do it.....& I won't react the same to them......turned out bringing the friendship closer with a deeper respect for each other.......Iron sharpens Iron at times. In otherwords, you are right....at this age, our relationships aren't parent/child.....they are equal/equal.

Hope you are feeling better now.