yes, this sort of projection! this could be something for you to explore, Sannah.....there is an anger within you that something in you is not meeting your own standards, a pain that something in you is not meeting your own standards. and maybe the anger and the pain come from your standards being much higher, harder, than they need to be. and that is, has been, uncomfortable to bear all bottled up inside, so you have directed it outward upon others because you see those same lacks in them as you are not quite seeing as being from yourself and not just them?
maybe your H is actually secure in the standards he has for himself and you respect that and are not angry at him for failing his standards because he hasn't so much, but are angry at yourself and others whom you see have failed yours/their standards? or just angry because they see your anger, your standards, and turn away from you without reaching out further to see who you really are? angry because then there isn't the comfort of being seen, valued, understood even if you have failed at some parts of your standards?
oh, I may be way off base, but just a few thoughts that came out....feel free to correct me where it's clear to you I am off!