((((greenfairy))))

I'm sorry you are having it so tough at the moment. You sure sound to have a lot on your plate.
Can you break it down into individual issues and then look at what you want to do about each one? Seems to me you have made a good start ont hat here by posting. So can you identify what you want to happen in each situation and how far you can make that happen, what you can do to make that situation more bearable. I find that just doing something - as little as I can - sometimes helps me, because I feel I have done something. I appreciate that there is nothing you can do about some of these things, and in that case maybe your goal needs to be to find a way of acceptinga nd living with the situation.
Hope this helps rather than hinders.
Be gentle with yourself.