I'm sorry you are going through this and I can relate. It is so painful. I'm working with my therapist to get on with it and move on but things keep popping up. I was diagnosed with BP in 2005 and had a bad manic episode in 2007 and did some very hurtful things to my husband. He put together paperwork about my erractic behavior and managed to get me kicked out of the house and take custody of our child. Six months after he started dating a new woman. Then about 6 months later she started coming to my son's sports acitivities. Now two weeks ago he told me that she and her two children are moving into my former home (one that we knocked down and redesigned together) and her kids will be going to school with my son (one is even in the same grade) and we will now be in the same school district/social circle. We were together 18 years and married for 12. I try to limit my contact with him but it especially hard when you have a child. We do a swim team that is very time intensive during the summer and she and her kids are doing the same swim team this summer as us even though they aren't moving in until August. He never shared this info until after we signed up and I already have some resentments about being replaced so quickly and her having friendships with people that dropped me because of my illness. Now it's going to be in my face everyday forever as I'm sure they will get married soon. He actually told me about the moving in first and I was fairly calm and accepting because I saw the writing on the wall so I figured I had time to process it. Then the next day I found out the swimming info and freaked out a a lot because I will have to see her everyday for practice and then for meetings every Wednesday night and all day Saturday and Sunday. My counselor says my feelings are completely normal. I've been processing this but I was all over the map. I'm doing better now and feeling a little more positive and will do my best this summer but it will not be easy. My oh so sensitive ex told me to get over it! Nice.

I could never ever live in the same house after what happened. I also suggest you remove yourself from the situation. I know it may be hard but I also would sever the relationship with your ex-wife. I don't think it's healthy for you at all. I know how resentful I am of my ex and I can only imagine what it would be like living with the guy she replaced you with so quickly.

It's been almost 4 years since my separation and I'm still working on moving past my resentments. I know I will do it and I have a fabulous new counselor that I think will help me to suceed, but of course it will take hard work from me as well.

I truly wish you the best. Keep us posted.