It sounds like this guy really pushed himself on you.
It was probably very flattering, even if you are married.
He sounds very predatory and manipulative...he told you secrets to make you feel special, took you on trips, gave you good reviews and raises.

i knew a guy with that kind of stare...feels like they are looking deep inside you.

But he is only doing it for his own gain - he acted like a jilted lover when you were showing baby pictures - he is trying to "get" you and conquer you.
Don't let that happen. Keep your mind on the things you have.