Okay...so I really hate to admit this, but this girl sounds very much like me. While I have never asked for consolement after cheating on him, or insulted him, or spread my business on the internet for his family to see...in their eyes, I did all of these things. He tried so hard to be supportive and understanding. I know he truly wanted to be a grounding force in all my madness, but it never happened. Maybe he allowed me to get away with too much...maybe I never loved him quite enough. I'm seeing someone else now, and for some reason I feel a huge responsibility to treat him with more respect. I seem to have much greater control over my actions and impulses that affect him. This probably is not what you wanted to hear...but it all sounds supremely familiar to me. I hurt someone I really cared about, and that's no sunny day. You're in a tough spot...use all of our wisdom and experience to make a healthy decision for yourself, this woman, and both of your futures.