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Old Jun 01, 2011, 11:59 PM
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i found it helpful to try different study techniques (eg at home, at the library, outside on the verandah, in silence, with music, writing notes, saying things out loud). this helped me see what did and didn't work for me - i definately find some techniques more motivating than others. i also break my work up in to tiny little chunks and put it all on a study planner - so as i do a little chunk (eg revise one lecture or read one article or read pages x to y) i can cross it off the list. that helps me feel like i am getting through things. when my procrastination is really bad, i keep a running list where i write down 7.00-8.10 studied, 8.10-8.15 munchie break, 8.15-8.35 studied, etc. then at the end of the day i can add up how many hours i actually spent studying. it was really heartbreaking to see how few hours at first, but having the list kept me accountable to myself (without the list its pretty easy to say yeah i studied today) and it was like an internal policeman that helped keep me on track. i found the book "the study skills handbook" by stella cottrell really helpful. especially the way she stresses you need to find active, not passive, ways to study. it is absolutely true.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
Thanks for this!
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