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Old Jun 02, 2011, 08:57 AM
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Maybe your T was just wanting more information on it....getting you to talk about it & what happened deeper to get a better understanding. Asking questions get that more information....which is good because it gets you talking about it from inside.

Answering questions doesn't always mean that they are questioning you....questions are a way of getting deeper information out of the person so they can understand & help at a deeper level.

I understand how the questioning can really hurt...& feel like being doubted.....I had an experience with my pdoc while I was in the middle of a trauma where the home care person was abusing my mother & I was right in the middle of it wondering what in the world was happening to my mom & me. I had so much stress & had been sick with an asthma attack....I had been loosing a lot of weight....sort of like anorexia.....so my when I called my pdoc for help, he was telling me that when you loose weight you don't always see things clearly..... I was seeing everything & trying to put the pieces together....the home care person ended up calling the police on ME that I was the one abusing my mother......when it was her all along....I finally was able to get her out of the house & my mother to a safer place.....but the nightmare left me with horrible PTSD symptoms.......my pdoc couldn't even really help while I was right in the middle of the trauma....& neither did my psychologist......it really hurt that they tried to brush it off as something it wasn't & put the blame on my own condition......so I understand how you are feeling. Unfortunately, I took the whole situation to our local police & they investigated the woman....but she disappeared & they couldn't come up with enough evidence to arrest her because I was too good at protecting my mother. None of the checks written by her came in because she knew I put a stop payment on them....they never found the stolen jewelry & the stolen credit card....they never prosecute. The fact that she od'ed my mother on her morphine even though she was taken to the ER couldn't be proved because they didn't test my mother for what was in her system.....

yes, the whole thing hurts....no, we don't exagerate what happens....facts are facts in what happens.....separating facts from emotions sometimes helps to prove that it was bad....but it is our emotions & how we react to the situations that are the key to what is needing to be treated in therapy. If our emotions have made it seem worse than it really was based on the facts...they helping us to regulate out emotions is important.....treating the trauma that we have experienced no matter if there is any exaggeration or not....needs to be focused on.
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