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Originally Posted by Sannah
Interesting how to answer this question you started talking about your mom. Did you deflect this question away from yourself? When you brought the question back to yourself you skip your whole childhood and start with being married.
Your mom had mental health issues and 5 children. Any chance your needs were ignored in your family?
My physical needs were met adequately by my mom. I had clean clothes and food. I was still neglected, however. Never once did I get the message from my mom that I was important in any way.
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Your question was implying that I may have learned this from someone else. I was trying to think of anyone in my life that I may have learned that
'ignoring your own needs' was okay. The only person I could think of was my mother. She put others first
all the time. Including her kids.
My mother was always there for me. I never felt neglected by her at all. She was involved with all aspects of my life (school, church, sports, girl scouts, etc...) Much more than I can say I have been with my own kids. I feel somewhat guilty that I am not for my own kids, what my mother was for me. Even today, I know that no matter what I might be going through, my mom will be there to support me.
I don't have any negative thing to bring up about my childhood. I have very fond memories of my childhood. (Other than the molestation by my best friend's father when I was 10 years old.)
My biological father died when I was 2 years old. I never knew him. He was in the marine core and was gone most of those 2 years. I don't remember him at all, so that can't have anything to do with any problems I may have now. My mother remarried when I was 6 years old. He is the only father I have ever known. I don't like to call him my step-dad. He WAS my dad. He was very good to me.
I do have the tendency to
deflect away from myself, but not sure that I did this in this situation.