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Old Jun 02, 2011, 10:18 PM
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My t surprised me by bringing up the topic of what I physically look like and whether I'm comfortable with it. I'm having a hard time not taking it as criticism. But I'm trying not to. He said he wants me to feel confident about it. The suggestion that I watch some stupid-sounding tv show about how to look like a model kinda sucks. And I'm always kinda mad about how the world expects women to spend so much more energy on our appearance than men, especially those of us who don't naturally conform to popular standards of attractiveness. My brain is telling me this is going to hurt my feelings more if I try to disagree with t than if I don't. Maybe I'm not disagreeing with him anyway- he wants me to be happy, right?

If I'm lucky, he'll have forgotten about it next week and be on to some other topic. I'm afraid he won't. Oh well, I 'spose there are more unpleasant things to talk about than this.

Anyone else cover this topic with your t?