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Originally Posted by dizgirl2011
Protoform, you use the example of a woman saying she was raped. But if a woman went to a therapist and said " I was raped" do you expect the T to just sit and say nothing -how would that help her?
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I would expect the therapist to offer support, help the patient forgive, and perhaps even help the patient see the positive. I would not expect the therapist to doubt the woman's rape story or to ask her to prove that she was raped.
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You are implying that by asking questions your T is not believing you? 
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The problem is also the confrontational manner in which the questions are asked and the disregard for my feelings. Obviously the therapist's approach caused me pain (do I have to prove this to you or can you take my word?) so he did not do something right and he did not help me. I still deal with traumatic memories of my high school experience and the way the psychologist treated me only adds salt to the wound. I did not receive the support I was expecting to receive. I felt very sad and disillusioned with therapy.
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What was it about his questions that made you feel like you weren't believed?
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The way they were asked. The psychologist's demeanor. The fact that the psychologist second guessed the fact that I was bullied in high school. I am not going to waste my time attempting to prove anything to anyone. I was bullied in high school and endured a lot of pain as a result of that bullying. That's a fact and if someone doesn't want to believe it they don't have to believe it. However, I am not going to pay a therapist to give me that treatment.
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I cannot help but wonder if therapy is right for you because a few months ago you were extremely angry that your female therapist didn't warn you that you 'may' develop strong feelings for her and because she didn't feel the same way, you believed she was intentionally hurting you.
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I never said that I believed that she was intentionally hurting me. She hurt me, but I never said that I believed she did it intentionally. I was angry at her because she failed to warn me about what could happen to me if she treated me the way she treated me. I was angry at her because she did not treat me differently, that is, in a manner that was likely to prevent the attraction from occurring.
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Now you want to sue the T who asks you questions about your experience of being bullied? If you don't want a therapist to take part then why go to someone to talk about it?
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I am asking myself that question. Maybe therapy is not for everyone.
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I'm sorry if I sound cold but, as before, you basically fight people's rational thinking of the subject in an argmentative way and your arguments back often are not rational but angry statements.
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Second guessing a patient and treating him as though he were a liar/delusional even though you know absolutely nothing about him is not the most rational way to do "therapy."
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I don't think therapy will help you until you can accept that other people have opinions that don't match yours and that sometimes you are wrong.
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Who is to say all opinions should be respected? If a person's opinion is based on poor reasoning and assumptions why should that opinion be respected?
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I think anger management may be helpful for you before getting involved in therapy.
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Isn't anger management itself a form of therapy? Why would I want more punishment?