This reminds me of my ex who would pinch back my upper arm back until it was like a taut, model like stick and say, "you would be so much prettier if your arm was like this!" God he was obnoxious. Guess what? My arms still don't look like sticks. And they never will. I do yoga with them. I carry books, groceries, and furniture. I play my guitar. Sometimes I sleep on them. I need my arms to have muscle and fat on them.

Still, I think these little criticisms do get to us. It bothered me. Subconsciously. Until I watched a Julia Robert movie a few weeks ago (Julia Roberts! One of the most beautiful women in the movies! Basically a human giraffe) and noticed that HER arms are a little wobbly too at the top-- they're NOT like sticks.

Whew.

I have noticed that a lot of men see "potential" in a good woman. It comes with the territory. The tricky thing is to surround yourself with people who see the value in a good woman. Like so many people are almost literally blind to what is around them.

Is your therapist going to help you on this quest?