I know where you are. I`ve had that all my life. Growing up with someone like that will either make the child develop the same problem or become a victim like you and I. I became the victim for my family and it spread to friends who abandoned me. Some people don`t have the mental problem but help those that do. I call them scardy cats. I finally moved away from all of them and are not going to be in contact with them unless it`s in court. I have learned to keep my heart to myself for a while and aren`t letting the next one who comes along get their way. I`m not a nacissist, but I think I`m getting meaner by the minute and will have those types of people running away with their tails tucked!