Hi

Trusting is a hard thing. Perhaps you can start off with baby steps here. I mean, you already started to trust us enough to post, and that is good. Don't put too much pressure on yourself; trust as much as you are able and hopefully you will be reassured by people's responses.

I don't think it was dumb to write a note to the T. Sometimes other people need help with us. I had to explain to my counsellor some of the ways she can know which of us she is talking to. She explained that it isn't always easy for her to tell.

I think if w_i is having a problem she should call the T. Perhaps the T forgot to say, or perhaps she thought she had said it often enough for w_i to know it is OK to call? Perhaps w_i should call anyway just to find out if it is OK to call?

How can you keep yourselves safe and secure? Are there things you can each do to feel OK? This must be a really difficult time for you; each time one of mine has come out for ther first time it is hard.

Be gentle with yourself. I hope you can soon feel accepted here.