Greenfairy

Don't blame yourself for the present situation! It's not your fault you were abused as a child - this is where all your problems spring from, quite obviously.

I know you can't stand your parents, but don't you think that they owe you something? Maybe you should take whatever assistance (financial or otherwise) that they offer you.

It seems as if your mother is trying to redress the balance a bit. In that case, let her pay for the car or something else that would give you some hope and start to get you on your feet again.

Otherwise you could be digging yourself in deeper. Look upwards and outwards and make fresh moves.

I'm trying to suggest things tactfully so as not to upset you further.

Best wishes, FG