Greenfairy,

I second funnygirl's helpful post.

Greenfairy,

I have been embattled myself a few times in life and it is very hard to think clearly or make good choices when we are in crisis.

My feeling is that we need some peacefulness in our days, just a small space where we can find ourselves and come down quietly.

I found that talking about my troubles when they were really bad just focussed me more on my own unhappy situation. What I did was (I know this is an old chestnut) - I went to a church when there was no one else there and I sat quietly for a while, and I lit a little candle for myself and all the people who were hurting like me at that time. I did this regularly for a long time, maybe a year.

I'm still not a Christian, but I know that this helped to turn my life around after my father died (he was an unhappy and abusive man). I found some strength inside me. I haven't needed to go to the church for a long while now.

Anyway, today I am going to drive over to the city and sit down in that place and light a little candle for you. Whatever you are doing today, I shall go and do this for you. I'll think about your posts, and how you are feeling and try to share a little of it with you.

Your time is different over there, but I'll be there from about 3-3.30pm UK time.

Good thoughts, M