It's better to tell than not tell, even if things don't feel different right away.....sometimes, I have told T something, and expected that the telling itself would make things feel all different, all better. But sometimes, the telling is just the beginning of the process of change, the beginning of the work! And sometimes, it takes much telling, of different aspects, from different angles, before we really accept the truth, the reality, and can really grow and change and heal and move into a new pattern.....
You are doing good work, rainbow, have patience and be gentle with yourself and with the process!