>> sometimes they don't realize that hair and makeup are what are affecting a woman's appearance- they think it's just "confidence".

or not!!!

when I was in my teens, my parents had a friend who was about halfway between my age and theirs. He brought various girlfriends with him when he came to visit, and one day he told us that he had proposed to a certain girl - one who reallllllllllly overdid it in the makeup department. He said, the thing he loved about her was that she was so natural. I coughed....He really had no idea that she wore anything.

Before the wedding she told me confidentially that she was petrified, and was planning to get up an hour or two before him, every day, forever, so that she could put her "face" on before he saw her. I felt very badly for her, even at that age I could tell how poorly she thought of her real self. I hope they are happy - two very nice people really.