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Originally Posted by StrongerMan
I have come to the conclusion that women who demand marriage too soon are usually controlling types (narcissistic/histrionic) who will never be happy unless the people in their lives capitulate to their demands. They are disordered. The marriage aspect is but one example of how they will bully and manipulate those around them. They cannot fathom that their desires could be questioned and they really don't care about the needs or feelings of those around them. Any questioning of them is seen as a threat to their very being. How dare you!?!?!? When you fail to give them what they want, when they want it, they will drop you like a hot potato. They will devalue and discard. Consider yourself lucky when this happens, but it can shake your very foundation and your belief system of what love is. You loved them, but they never loved you. At least not in a mature sense. You were but a means to an end. A cog in their machine. I wonder how many "bridezilla" marriages have ended in divorce?
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I am glad you responded to my post. Your commets have helped me move forward. She emailed me the other day stating she no longer wants to remain exclusive with me because 23 months is way too long that she has waited. SHE has SACRIFICED way too much time and is tired of waiting. She proceeded to state that she had a new date with a new guy this Saturday night. I started to panick and went so far as going to the local jeweler to look at rings to try to SAVE our relationship. Then while in the store, I stopped myself and said " What the bleep am I doing". Then I read your post and I feel much better now. She claims that she has been a victim. She looks at our situation as her doing all the work and sacrificing. I am the bad guy because I didn't act sooner. I almost found myself getting her a ring because I was scared to death of losing her. Then I said to myself, this is not the way it is suppose to happen. Thanks. Any futher comments would be greatly appreciated. I better keep the strength and especally keep myself busy tomorrow night.