ok ... I'm usually posting on the Bipolar forum, but I figured this question was best here in the Relationships forum.

My partner (I would say husband, but we're not legally married) tends to be the type to bottle up anger and then when something small happens he blows up.

He is a paralegal and works with tough cases and even tougher lawyers as bosses. So at work he gets told what to do and asked to go here... there ... do this .. that ... and can't tell them anything in return.

Once his work day or work week is over he really does not want to hear anyone (me especially) asking him to run errands or do much since it's all he hears at work. (which I understand)

I am currently pregnant with our first son and am due in 5 weeks (July 9). I work from home (under the table) and have to use my cell phone all day long as well as our laptop. Today after working for only 1 hour my phone dies so I plug it in and it just wont charge.

I had gone to a midwife apmt earlier and used up my lil bit of gasoline, so I email my partner and tell him that we need to get my phone checked or buy a new charger. I also said if I had enough gasoline I would go myself, but I don't want to risk being stranded with no gas and no phone while 35 weeks pregnant away from home.

He replied that we would go after he gets out of work. I thought everything was fine. When he got home to pick me up and head out, he was fuming. He takes me to the Sprint store, the closest one was 45 min away and closed at 7pm giving us only a 15 min window to take care of the problem. He refuses to get out of the car and so I wobble into the store and try to get help.

We have been tight on cash due to baby preparations, so when the clerk told me I had to pay 30.00 for a new charger and I did not have it, my partner almost had a conniption. He said we can get a better deal at Radio Shack and drove like a maniac over there. All to find out the charger was 26.00.

Now, we get home 26.00 poorer and he is steaming mad at me for not having enough gas in the car AND making him spend money when we don't have it. He is refusing to eat dinner and is locked in our office smoking and watching TV and avoiding me.

I don't know why this is making him SO mad ... It's nothing I was able to do on my own or anything I had control over. So, I opened the charger's packaging as careful as possible and went online (ebay) and looked for a deal. Found one plus a car charger for 5.88 including shipping!! I asked my sister to order it and once it arrives I will repack the one we bought and return it to Radio Shack.

What was I supposed to do? Should I have handled it differently? This is not the first time he gets all angry at me when asked to run an errand, even when it doesn't even involve any money!! He has admitted that he needs to control his anger and not let the small things get to him. BUT he refuses to see a therapist or talk to me about his day at work to at least let out some of his issues.

I am more worried about him losing his patience with our son when he's born. He's not a violent man what-so-ever and never even raises his voice at me, but just him being angry and pushing me away hurts enough.

Any words of wisdom? I'm sorry this was so lengthy, I just need to figure out what I can do!!

Thanks!