Trying to heal from this...taking longer than usual, but what I have learned is that I have to take responsibility for my choices in relationships from day 1. I can't just choose based on needs I have and expect the other person to fulfill it. I have to get to know them and not just go along with what they say because they promised me something...if they follow through on their promises, then I can continue.

It's hard because I want something now, but unless that something is out there, it's not going to happen.

It sounds like a hard lesson to learn, but I'm learning it.

Yes, we are attracted to those we recognize in our families. I am learning that too in my actual family.

But ya know, I think it's really crappy for people to act like people they are not and then have that mask slip to reveal that really ugly side of them. The person that was fake got what they want, then when they are through, they dump you.