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(JD) · Jun 03, 2011, 10:07 PM

Oh no! ......well, yes my first thought is put her up in a hotel... but generally that isn't an option....
and yes, I thought of you making plans that cause you to be away....
and maybe make other options for your daughter to share the local sites (or whatever) with her now they are in your home (area)....
try and be ok with being a 14 yo? Make foods ahead of time and freeze them so meal time is easier? Decide on clothes to wear and places to go that aid you in not having to be the hostess for your mom...

Listen, my sons and their wives/families have avoided me quite well, so I'm sure you can do this.

I would nail down how long she's expecting to stay, or YOU in response give her the dates she is welcomed ... and give her the number to the local hotel? This is done all the time, trust me....

oh, yeah, give your spouse extra responsibility too...and write it down for him since you probably won't be able to explain it when you are being triggered!

AND don't write off your new T at all! Ts can help keep you grounded and make plans...and offer extra contact if you need it (if you talk about it and plan ahead)....they can do all that without knowing all of your history etc.... it's a matter of helping you through being triggered, and fighting the PTSD reactions.