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Originally Posted by turquoisesea
It sounds like this guy is also going through a variety of things. It's really hard to tell. Congratulations on bringing the topic up for discussion. Maybe you two can work something out, if he has feelings for you and may want commitment in the future, or if he may be wiling to consider at least TRYING a committed relationship now.
*hugs* and good luck
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Originally Posted by Heisenberg
Okay, well he did say "You're important to me so we need to sit down and have a conversation". Clearly, as he said, you're important to him. From what you've been saying it sounds like he's had problems in relationships in the past, but from his text it sounds like he might be willing to try and work something out. I know it's hard, and I know how things like this can make you feel. My own boyfriend pulls me in some upsetting directions sometimes. Hang in there. *hugs* You can do this. I'm here, and many others are here to support you.  |
I hope you guys are right. The fact that he is nervous to have a relationship makes sense to me. He is an alcoholic, but is sober at the moment. He spent most of his 20s drunk and now he has huge regrets about that. About two years ago he got a DUI and that is what finally set him on the right path. So now he has started school again this past spring semester. He is really tough on himself and had to get As or he would be disappointed in himself. He feels like he owes a lot to his parents and that this is his last chance to set his life in the right direction. So he is going through a lot. I also don't think he is completely over a relationship that ended 7 years ago. Apparently he would have done anything for this girl and they were engaged. Sadly his drinking and other problems got in the way and she said that she could not see herself marrying him. I think it still bothers him. He said that he gets obsessive about relationships. That he will give himself to them completely like nothing else matters. I know he is scared that it will become a priority over school for him. I think he is in a different place in his life now than when he was in his early 20s and can handle a relationship without losing focus on school. But what do I know? We need to talk about it, but he won't be back until Saturday. That gives me a lot of time to think.