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Originally Posted by salukigirl
He sounds extremely inappropriate. I think she should for the simple fact that, if you don't give in, he will do this to another woman. I hate to say it, but his behavior makes me think that he has already cheated on your mom. Not to mention it's HER DAUGHTER! He sounds like he has some serious issues and you shouldn't have to deal with this - neither should she.
She might be at a point where she is afraid to be alone and will put up with more just to have someone? I say that bc I know that's what my dad is doing with his current wife. He has basically said it flat out.
I agree that he sounds extremely creepy. I would definitely ask her to sit down and talk. If she gets defensive just give her some time to let it sink in. Or, write her a letter. It might be embarrassing for her having a talk like that with her daughter? A letter might give her a way to process it alone and really give it some thought without that overwhelming feeling of having you say it to her. Because she has chosen this man, she may feel guilty or like you are accusing her so I would be very delicate with her. I hope you can figure something out because this is not appropriate at all.
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I think that is what she's doing. she's been with him for 12 years now... and i get the sense she's one comfortably numb there, and that she doesn't know how to make it out on her own.. but shes full of excuses as well when i try to tell her it wont be perfect and how you like it, but we could survive together... and that itd be much better than where she is now.. but she always goes back, and never chooses me first... but this is something i know..
Thank you so much.. I will try the letter thing as well.. and write it so it hopefully wont be confused as to i'- and hes calling me right now T.T bah!- anyways, as to attacking her instead of trying to inform her..
He's gotten to where he doesn't want me and my mom to be together alone. .... both me and my mom grew up in the same home, so i can see where she went and found a simlar situation.. i dont know how i'm diffrent.. i wish i did, then i could tell her how i got out of there and stay out of that house...
and i'm afraid people will hate me.. and... i'm ashamed and embarrased.. I'm also afraid people will see me as vulnerable and it will only bring on more.. (also the same reasons why i've never really opened up about some things in my past...)
idk... I'll do the letter thing... and do the getting copies as well of the phone record..
Thanks everyone!
