I can really relate to this, I used to work in a big clubhouse for severely mentally ill adults and there were a lot of members who were very loud, my job was in large part making sure everyone was safe and things were secure, because of the number of fights i witnessed while there, it got to the point where anytime I heard escalating voices whether out of anger and arguing or just excitement about something that happened in their life, I COULD NOT tell the difference and I became very startled and anxious and had to ask them to tone it down a bit because I thought they were about to fight, it was a bad environment for me to be working in and I got out after about 8 years , I LOVED what I did there tho and miss it but got to the point where I felt rather ineffective. SO I relate to ur post a whole lot and hope it gets better for u. Hugz.