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Originally Posted by WePow
I would have thought he would have taken the time to read the email at least before we met. But it was not important enough. I get that (finally).
It is like he didn't hear what I needed most for him to hear. That he can't see me. And that I am just not worth his time to see. That is how I feel honestly.
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(((Wepow)))
This seems like a miscommunication, not Ts deliberate intention to cause you hurt and pain. Maybe he missed reading it for some reason. When T disappoints me and lets me down, it is usually as a result of him not "getting" what I want/need, and I have to literally spell it out to him. I hate doing it as it makes me feel he doesn't know me as well as I thought he did, but sometimes Ts just miss our point. Was there a reason you didn't bring up the email with him in session?
I have to remind you of something you said to me, which I try and remember and believe when I am having the same feelings to my T-
"you are very precious to your T...after watching my T and seeing his eyes and the words he isn't allowed to say because of the way they teach Ts to stay emotionally distant, well I know for a fact that Ts really care far more deeply for clients than they can ever let that client know."
You ARE important to T and he DOES care- it sounds like he just messed up this time. I hope you can talk to him about this next session.Sorry you are hurting 